Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Get an "A" in Communication by Avoiding These 5 Pitfalls
Assuming negative intent
My husband and I both have the tendency to automatically assume our comments are meant to attack one another, when most of the time, we are innocent of that crime. We end up getting defensive against each other for no reason at all. A former coworker had a sign hanging in his office that read: "Always assume positive intent." That attitude can go a long way in preventing oversensitivity in a relationship.
"Well, that would have never happened if you hadn't…" In my experience, nothing stings more than a loved one casting blame. It leads to guilt, defensiveness, and oftentimes, accusations back. Put the kibosh on outright or passive-aggressive accusations. Instead, take joint responsibility for everything in your relationship, or, if something really is your partner's fault, don't bring it up in an accusatory tone.
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