Saturday, February 12, 2011

Waiting for the Ring: Is a Marriage Ultimatum the Answer?

When you're ready to get married but your long-term boyfriend shows no signs of an impending proposal, the wait can be unbearable, even when it seems you've dropped every hint in the book. The idea of speeding up the process by giving him an ultimatum - propose by a certain deadline or the relationship is over - might seem like an effective route. However, try not to jump the gun by giving him an all or nothing scenario. These guidelines can help you figure out whether a proposal is the best option for you both right now, and if so, whether an ultimatum is the best way to go about getting him on one knee.

Make sure he's the right person

It's sad to say, but some women just want to get engaged for the wrong reasons. Whether it's because of social norms, a desire to have a wedding, or any of the other worst reasons to get married, seriously take the time to evaluate whether this guy is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you're not sure he's the one, give yourselves more time to find out. If you realize he's not the one, it may be best to stop wasting one another's time. Take it from me - I experienced a broken engagement because I didn't take the time to figure out whether I was begging for a proposal from the right guy.

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What do you think? Is a marriage ultimatum the answer?

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