Saturday, February 12, 2011

The Valentine's Day Dilemma

Yesterday, I was standing in CVS for over half an hour, poring over the greeting card rack, trying to pick one out for my husband. It's our first Valentine's Day as a married couple, so I wanted to choose one that called him my husband, but I didn't want one that was too sappy or that rhymed or that said something about him that wasn't altogether true or that played music. What I found out was that greeting cards just don't do the trick. No greeting card can accurately describe the intricacies of a couple's relationship or the feelings one person has for the other.

This is how all of Valentine's Day is, in a way. To go with the cards written by someone else, we force ourselves out on stereotypical dates and give one another cliche gifts. We try to outdo other couples (or each other, as we saw in a recent episode of Modern Family), set unreasonably high expectations for ourselves, and single out people who have no valentine. But how often does the way we spend Valentine's Day reflect a true representation of ourselves as a couple?

At least I can say this about Valentine's Day: it reminds us that we should be taking the time to honor and spend quality time with our loved ones. But it shouldn't be done in a cookie-cutter way or because we feel that's what we're supposed to do. If you choose to celebrate Valentine's Day, that's great... but do so in a way that reflects your unique relationship, and more often than just on February 14th.

What do you think of Valentine's Day?

More in this vein:
5 Reasons Couples Should Boycott Valentine's Day

And for those looking to do a little something different:
Themed Valentine's Day Dates You Can Enjoy At Home

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